For years I was telling myself that I was challenging myself when looking back at it, I actually wasn’t. I was doing all of the things I thought I should do to realize my dreams and ambitions - reading books, listening to podcasts, seeking new perspectives - but all I was doing was going through the motions on a daily basis and complaining that things weren’t changing in my life.

I don’t look back at that version of myself with regret or embarrassment, I was doing my best with the level of knowledge I had at the time. But if I’m being honest with myself, I do envy how much further along I’d be in my growth journey had I known this sooner.

And here it is…

If we don’t take control of our minds, they are designed to hold us back. This is important to understand because this is the unconscious force that most prevents us from making progress in our lives. But when you are aware of this unconscious bias, you free yourself from its power over you.

Maybe you’ve heard this before - You can’t improve what you don’t measure. What people don’t realize about this is that we always have a measurement system working at all times. The measuring system that you’ve been using, without your awareness, are the experiences and beliefs of your unconscious mind. It’s through these beliefs and mental models that you evaluate your daily performance through.

But if our goal is to reach our potential, this measuring system sets us up to fall short. Yet it’s the default setting and that’s why so many people feel like they’re not getting the results they deserve and becoming the person they know they can be. 

Our unconscious mind keeps us in our comfort zone and causes us to negotiate with ourselves, make excuses, or break commitments that are different from how things currently are. In other words this is our current self sabotaging the potential of our future self.

In my case, my unconscious mind was convincing me that I was challenging myself with the things I was doing and trying. But that was just a rationalization from the previous belief system protecting me from actually challenging myself with new and bolder actions.

But we are not forever held back by this. The one thing that defeats the unconscious pattern is using the conscious mind and the intentional choices we have the power to make in every moment of every day.

Here’s the actionable piece. Instead of letting your unconscious mind be the measuring stick of your progress, you can implement an intentional, hyper-aware measuring system that gives you the truth of the things your mind has been refusing to see. 

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I did a meditation on the Heroic app this past weekend that created a really interesting experience that I wanted to share with you. I was prompted to embody gratitude as fully as I could, to really feel it in every cell of my body. And then with that sensation in mind, I was told to feel that the gratitude of the world was pouring into me.

My mind began to visualize that everything around me was infusing me with gratitude. The light in the room was giving me gratitude. The chirp of the crows was sending me gratitude. The feeling of the couch and floor under me was all supporting me with gratitude. 

You know the comforting feeling of submerging yourself in a warm bath, relieving tension in every muscle? That’s what I was experiencing but instead of feeling the sensation of warmth I was feeling the sensation of gratitude.

The science of gratitude is compelling. Through studies it is proven to be correlated with psychological and physical health benefits, it can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, and improve your sense of connection to others. When done consistently, gratitude can become the lens that you see the world through.

Gratitude is a super habit. There are fewer things that will more simply and radically change your life than reflecting on 3 things you’re genuinely grateful for on a daily basis.

And the beautiful thing is, gratitude immediately makes you feel differently. Unlike how consistent exercise and healthy diet take some time to lose weight, practicing gratitude shifts your physiological state in the moment. This makes it an easier habit to incorporate because it offers an immediate reward, which is one of the criteria for habit formation according to James Clear’s “Atomic Habits”.

This is one of the 3 Super Habits you implement into your daily life as part of the Super Habits System. The other two are exercise to improve your daily energy levels and organized scheduling to revolutionize your daily productivity. 

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A notable figure in the personal development space who keeps popping up, that I can’t ignore, is John Maxwell. Recently I heard a quote of his that really stood out to me and deserves to be broken down. The quote is “Discipline is the bridge between goals and achievements.”

As someone on their personal development journey, you probably know all about goal setting. You want to set SMART Goals that are specific and measurable, you want to put a deadline on them, and you’re 42% more likely to achieve them if they’re written down....

This is all great and useful information that but there’s one major problem: There’s a difference between goal setting and goal achieving.

Having a clear, well-thought out, structured goal is not enough to actually achieve it. What is?

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and achievements.”

Goals act as environments that provide specific guidance for your behavior. Goals don’t actually do the work, they provide a filter that helps you to follow through on the right things you need to do to get the results you desire.

Taking consistent, disciplined action toward your goals is the engine that actually creates change in your life. 

Here’s an example: I set a goal to get 10 gyms, that I had no previous relationship with, registered for a nonprofit project I’m working on. This goal helped me to see the specific actions I needed to take to hit that goal, which was cold calling. 

Knowing that I need to make calls is one thing, and doing it is another. That’s the point here. That’s the bridge. The discipline to do what you say you’re going to do will put you on the path to achieving the result. So I committed to cold calling 50 gyms in a week and guess what? I didn’t only hit my goal, I beat it.

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One of the biggest things holding us back from pursuing our fullest potential is guilt. It could be guilt about how you received an advantage over someone else that you feel was undeserved. It could be guilt about taking time for yourself and feeling like it comes at the expense of the well-being of your loved ones. It could be guilt about having things that other people can’t afford but would kill for, and you’re taking it for granted. 

But what if I told you that guilt is actually only a recent concept, and we’ve chosen to allow it into our lives?

In Tibetan, the language they speak in Tibet which has strong roots in Buddhist culture, they don’t have a word for “guilt”. It’s not something they’ve allowed to exist in their lives. Instead, the closest word they have roughly translates to “intelligent regret with a decision to do things differently in the future”.

You hear all the time that the words you use are powerful. If every time we felt ‘guilt’ we instead chose to see it as being aware of our shortcomings and the impacts of them, with an intention to learn from it so it doesn’t happen quite the same again, what would happen?

It would completely change your relationship with the things you feel guilty about.

I share that to highlight another example of how the meaning in our life is determined by the story we tell. And if you’re looking to overcome the guilt you feel in your life, that’s exactly what you need to do.

Instead of feeling guilty about an advantage you received that was undeserved, see it as a raised platform you get to use to support other people with.

Instead of feeling guilty about prioritizing your own self-care, see it as an investment that allows you to do more and be better and be more helpful to those who you feel like are impacted by the personal time you’re be spending.

Instead of having guilt that you can access things other people can’t access, trust your intentions that goodness flows through you and multiplies into the world rather than being consumed by you.

Guilt is energetically demanding and intense. It keeps you from being in a place where you can contribute to the better solution you feel like you’re taking away from. So reframe your guilt with a new story and feel yourself freed from its grip on you.

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Many people who grew up with competitive sports in their background have a belief that success is about winning. That’s how things were measured, there’s one champion, only one team wins a game, and it misrepresents how we should approach our self-growth.

Let’s take Michael Jordan, considered to be the greatest basketball player of all time and one of the most dominant players in any sport. If you’ve ever studied his mindset you’d find an interesting nuance. While he will do everything in his power to outwork you, outsmart you, and out play you, he also knows his own limitations. Jordan is a fierce competitor and his driving force was to be the best in the league, even the best ever, and even with that extreme level of ambition he harnessed it in the right ways.

He realized that no matter what you’re trying to achieve, the way to become the best is you must become your best.

Now all of us don’t have the same level of determination in our lives, and I’m not saying we need to. Michael Jordan would tell you how much he had to sacrifice to achieve the greatness that he did, and for many of us our best, most enjoyable lives are more multi-dimensional.

No matter the field of competition, we all can pursue being our very best. Whether that be as a parent and co-worker, entrepreneur and nonprofit leader, or student with big dreams, it’s within our power to give everything we have to the life we have in front of us.

Why does that matter? Because it causes you to care more. It gives you more meaning in what you do, which connects you to a deeper sense of purpose and makes you feel more fulfilled.

Many people are afraid to be seen trying their very best because they fear it won’t be good enough. They’d rather wonder what their best is rather than put it all out there. That was me for many years… But the only way you can truly be your best is to have the courage to show up.

And if that ends up making you the best there is, fantastic!

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We all have a lot of ‘shoulds’ in our life. 

They can be self-imposed - I should eat healthier. I should spend less time on Facebook. I should be more present at dinner with my loved ones. I should have more focus at work…

And they can be imposed by others - You should have a stable job. You should get married. You should stop hanging around with that person. Or even you shouldn’t spend so much money on that…

Things are already hard enough as they are and the added pressure of knowing you should be doing things differently adds extra weight that is heavy to carry. And I imagine that you’re already trying your best. So let’s make one simple switch in vocabulary to completely change the meaning of these recommendations.

Trade out ‘should’ for ‘could.

I could eat healthier. I could be more present at dinner with loved ones. I could spend less time on Facebook. Or you could have a stable job. You could get married. You could stop spending so much money on that.

Doesn’t that sound completely different? What it does is it creates empowerment. Instead of feeling out of control, it brings awareness to the choice you have to make things different. It’s a way to frame the exact same concepts so that they’re much more approachable and available rather than prescribed to fix you. 

Your self-imposed 'shoulds' shift to an awareness of areas for improvement. The 'shoulds' imposed by others shift to perspectives that you can consider and ultimately choose how to relate with for yourself. 

So the next time that you catch yourself saying that you should do this or that, change the narrative to what you could do about it and see how your energy around it changes. And the next time someone tells you what they think you should do, think about it as something that you could do and see how much more receptive you are to it.

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So much of life is the story we tell about it. There’s a story behind a past experience and how we relate with it in the present. There’s a story about who we are, what we’re capable of, and the details we’re including that either hold us back or propel us forward. There’s a story you tell about your perceived level of success, or lack thereof. 

All a story does is it creates meaning. Our life has a certain set of facts. The story becomes the way we relate with those facts and extract meaning from it. Let’s say for example you get in a car crash. One story is that it’s a major inconvenience and hassle, working with insurance and not having transportation for a few days as your car gets repaired. Another story is feeling like you have a second chance at life, that you’re being protected and destined for something. 

Two stories, very different meanings, and even more different implications around how that impacts you moving forward.

I recently came across a quote that I really like that relates to this concept. It goes “Don’t write your story about what happened, write your story and make it happen.”

Read that again: “Don’t write your story about what happened, write your story and make it happen.”

The future is undefined and uncertain. We’ve all had huge things happen to us where life has become permanently different on a moment's notice. We hold that power in every moment of every day. Seriously. But we have fears, doubts, and insecurities that keep us from dreaming as big as we want to.

If we don’t dictate the direction of our future, something else will. Either way tomorrow will happen and it can be by your design or by something else. Just like you can look back and choose a new more empowering story, you can look forward and pursue a new and better story as well.

Writing your story about what happened is the reactive way to live. It’s your story still but it’s not the one you’d most want to tell. Writing your story and making it happen is a proactive way to go out and chase the footsteps you want to leave behind.

Embedded in the quote is something important - a statement of commitment. You’ve written your story. It’s already decided. Now it’s up to you to be accountable to it, show up for it, and do the things required to make it happen.

If you want your story to be one that is healthier, more bold and courageous, and full of deep and meaningful work and relationships, you need to step up your self-improvement game. And the fastest and most effective way to do that is to register for the Super Habits System.

One of the things that holds us back most is the fear of making a mistake. We don’t want to do anyone wrong, harm ourselves or others, embarrass ourselves or expose ourselves to the judgment of others. And that’s what a mistake is - it’s when something didn’t go according to plan and it led to an unintended negative consequence.

Mistakes are closely connected to our behaviors, meaning they’re things that you did or didn’t do. We made the wrong decision, said something the wrong way, interpreted a situation incorrectly, or whatever else it might be. These bundle into real behaviors and actions that you would have preferred to have gone differently.

But on the other side of the coin, we know that our behaviors and actions are the drivers of change in our lives. So if we’re too afraid to take new actions, while it may help us avoid making mistakes in the short-term it often leads to larger, much more difficult to fix mistakes in the long run.

With that in mind I’d like us to shift our relationships with making mistakes. What if mistakes were just ‘miss takes’? Just like the takes of a movie, what if all making a mistake means that we have another opportunity to try again?

Behaviors don’t exist in isolation. They’re all connected and linked to each other. And sure, there are certain behaviors and actions that are irreversible when done… But that doesn’t mean that the end result is permanent. You can make up for mistakes, apologize, get creative, do something differently, or otherwise reconcile the situation to produce a new result.

Making mistakes is part of the process. No one is immune to it, everyone makes mistakes. But I’ve found that the people who are more willing to put themselves out there and do something wrong are also the happiest, most successful, most achieving, and most fulfilled.

Life would be so boring if all we did were things that we knew how to do perfectly. Life is a learning experience and as we learn, there are going to be errors along the way. The more we allow ourselves to embrace the mindset that mistakes are okay, they’re just ‘missed takes’, then we give ourselves permission to do things differently (and get different outcomes).

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If you feel like you’re leaving potential on the table and not achieving the levels of personal health, success, productivity, and contribution you’re capable of… And you know that more focus and structure is your ticket to reaching your goals… Then this is for you!

In 5 minutes a day for 21 days you can install the Super Habits System to become ridiculously consistent, take your daily output to elite levels, and live a life that other people have a hard time keeping up with!

You know how so often throughout the day we ask each other “How are you?” There’s a question in it but no one really answers it, it has become a way to politely greet someone and initiate conversation. 

But imagine if we started taking that request seriously. That any time someone asked us how we were doing we took a genuine moment to reflect and respond honestly. We would cultivate so much more awareness of our own personal state and learn about others'.

With that intention in mind, I’ve been experimenting with an alternative question, “How’s your spirit?” I’ve noticed that it breaks the pattern and prompts a much more thoughtful response. It goes one layer beyond the perception of how we’re feeling in the moment and to the core of how we’re feeling overall in our life. It transcends emotions and taps into their being. 

I must caveat, I’m not asking this question to my Uber driver (or maybe I would!) But I’m definitely more intentional about using this question when beginning conversation with people I’m closer to and care about because it opens the door to connect on a deeper level. 

And because I care I want to ask you - How’s your spirit? Not how you’re feeling right now, and not even how you’ve been feeling overall… How’s your spirit? Is it full and inspired? Is it broken and low on hope? Is it tired of persevering and reaching a breaking point? Or is it unwavering and strong?

Seriously, pause for a moment right now to ask. How’s your spirit?

This really matters because it’s the energy that coats everything about you and may provide insight into your life and well-being. And once you’ve done your own self-reflection, ask a friend or family member how their spirit is and inspire the same reflection within them.

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If you feel like you’re leaving potential on the table and not achieving the levels of personal health, success, productivity, and contribution you’re capable of… And you know that more focus and structure is your ticket to reaching your goals… Then this is for you! 

In 5 minutes a day for 21 days you can install the Super Habits System to become ridiculously consistent, take your daily output to elite levels, and live a life that other people have a hard time keeping up with!