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No Person Steps In The Same River Twice

February 21, 2025

There’s a powerful quote attributed to the greek philosopher Heraclitus that goes “No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.” I love this quote because it reminds us of how rapid, constant, and unrelenting change is. 

Even things that appear to be static are dynamic. Balancing on a bike is not a process of being still but of stabilizing and restabilizing as the rider tilts subtly off-center. Equilibrium in a chemical reaction is not a dormant state of inactivity but a very active process of constant chemistry. 

The quote also talks about the two different faces of change, internal and external. As individuals we are always learning, experiencing, and growing. With every datapoint our brains rewire to update our understanding of the world, creating personal evolution in every moment. We update our beliefs, preferences, and perspective instantaneously causing us to never think the same way twice. This is the man in the river.

The internal change interacts with everything changing externally. We’re constantly acquiring new information, and context from the outside world. The same conditions are impossible to reproduce because there are so many variables that go into it, and so many forces that influence it. This is the river the man is in. 

Given how constant change is, our mission is to keep reorienting ourselves to meet the demands of the moment. As Charles Darwin shared, “it’s the most adaptable that survive” and that’s equally true about who thrives and succeeds in our modern world, which is changing faster than ever. Critical to keeping up with the changes is having strong feedback systems in place that give you the insight you need to know which direction to go. 

“No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.” Every moment is unique, internally and externally, and that’s part of the fun! We get to continue improving and growing in the ways that help us maximize our potential and contribution in the world.

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"Gratitude is a way of life."

February 20, 2025

Some of the happiest, most abundant, most fulfilled people I know are the most grateful. They have a genuine appreciation for the goodness in the world around them and seem to live in a positivity bubble that insulates them from the chaos of the outside world. I believe that we would all benefit from embracing gratitude as a way of life like they do.

While positivity is something that appears to be based on your personality, I’ve found that it’s something that can be trained. You can intentionally build your mindset to be more grateful, and to start to see the world through a lens of more positivity. 

The way that you do that is by being intentional about finding reasons to be grateful. It’s the consistency of consciously scanning your day and finding the goodness and blessings that you begin to see it unconsciously too. You start noticing the good things that are happening in the world instead of the bad because you’ve literally trained your mind to. 

There are two different depths of gratitude journaling that I’ve incorporated into my life and that I encourage you to try:

For those who are just getting started, it’s as simple as finding 3 things to be grateful for a day with prompts: One thing about your health and body that’s functioning well for you, one thing about the people in your life who’ve made an effort to support you, and one about your circumstances and how good you gave it compared to those less fortunate.

For those who are more advanced, you can try a reframing gratitude practice. It’s also a daily discipline where you recall something that didn’t go well, that was far from ideal and created inconvenience, sadness, frustration, or anger… And you choose to see the breadcrumbs of good within it. 

You get in a car crash and realize how lucky you are to survive, and have insurance. You lose a deal in business and find gratitude in being aware of the weaknesses in your pitch. You get in a disagreement with a loved one and appreciate how most of the time you resolve conflict amicably. 

It's not easy to do, but it's possible, and very effective in shifting your mindset. It’s the conscious reframing of something that impacted you negatively into something positive that you begin to start seeing failures through a more empowering lens.

In any case, being grateful is a super power because it shapes your perspective to find more possibility, hope, opportunity, and goodness in the world. That’s the type of world we want to live in, and it starts with making that the reality of our world. Do that by getting in the routine of intentional gratitude journaling, and soon you’ll be embracing gratitude as a way of life.”

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A Story About Self-Sabotage And Cold Showers

February 19, 2025

Last week I caught myself in the middle of doing something naughty - scrolling aimlessly on social media while laying in my bed.

When I came to, I didn't even know what happened or how I got there. Obviously it wasn’t what I wanted to be doing, but there I was. Thank goodness for my Screen Time App Limits to alert me of my usage keeping me honest!

Every morning I do a form of meditation where I overview the wins and opportunities to be better from the last 24 hours. The next morning, one of the instances that came to mind as an opportunity for improvement from the previous day was my scrolling. During the meditation I took the time to understand the forces that created the behavior. Things don’t just happen on their own, something causes it, and I wanted to diagnose why.

The self-exploration led me to a realization that I was scrolling on my phone as I was transitioning from finishing a workout and getting in the shower. But as per my policy, it was a cold shower, and I realized that subconsciously my mind found a way to procrastinate so that I could avoid the inevitable. 

That’s what the mind does. In an effort to avoid discomfort, it will self-sabotage. It will employ things like procrastination, perfectionism, distraction, confusion, fear, anxiety, limiting beliefs and everything else it can do to try to redirect you away from doing that which is uncomfortable.

But consciously, I know there’s no getting around it. I choose to take cold showers because it serves me, and no matter if I step in right away or 20 minutes later, it’s going to feel the same. The procrastination doesn’t benefit me, so from the awareness I gained in meditation I committed to a new policy where right when I get home from a workout I go straight into the shower. 

The new policy was put to the test the next day. After my workout I felt myself want to distract myself from the looming cold shower, but this time I was aware of it and had the agency to choose otherwise. I got in the shower right away, endured the cold, and felt good about how fast I was transitioning through my day. In the days since I’ve had a similar intention and experienced a similar result.

I share this personal story to highlight the power of choice. We can control what happens at any given moment. We can always consciously override the unconscious pattern. And a little intention goes a long way in helping you orient your actions in the direction that most serves you.

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Why Am I So Resistant To Structure?

February 18, 2025

I’ve found that many people are very resistant to adding more structure to their life. They believe that more structure would confine them, limit their ability to be spontaneous, and put them in a box that takes away their freedom. But seeing what structure actually does for people rather than relating with it in an extreme way, I believe there’s a way to reframe structure so that you can see it as a tool that actually helps you live in closer alignment to who you want to be, even as a free-spirit.

One of the complaints made by those who are new to ‘having structure’ is that a structured life is overly rigid. That structure eliminates your independence and free-will because it mandates that you live a certain way. But the healthiest type of structure is designed to be accommodating, with enough flexibility to handle variability in life while still offering some guardrails to make sure that you don’t go completely off course. 

The free-flowing person rejects the idea of “coloring between the lines”, but honestly it’s more representative of their personal bias than it is the reality of having structure. The structure is there to help make sure you as an individual are balanced, organized, sustainable, and effective in whatever it is you choose to do. The constraints in place are only enough to make sure you’re living productively and with intentionality, and someone resistant to structure underestimates how much creative freedom they have while living within those constraints.  

Everything I’ve described is pretty abstract, so let’s make it tangible. A simple structure you could create, that many people are most strongly opposed to, is having a schedule for the day. For some, having a schedule feels too routine and robotic to really enjoy life. That following a schedule for the day means you can’t embrace any of the spontaneity of life and it doesn’t enable you to do things when you most feel like doing them.

But in actuality having a schedule helps you to embrace those nuances. A schedule helps you to quantify the implications, consequences, and considerations of spontaneous things and help you thoughtfully decide if you want to do them. It gives you more feedback for your emotions so that you can choose when to be disciplined, and when to be more flowy. 

What a schedule does is it helps you live even more intentionally because every time you want to deviate away from your plan, now you’re choosing to do that. Previous to that, having no structure and no schedule means that you unconsciously go wherever the wind takes you with little thought or control, and it often takes you off track in ways you wouldn’t want to go. But the structure offers you guardrails against that while empowering you to lean fully into the things that most serve you.

Again, if you’re resistant to structure, perhaps all you need is a perspective shift. Discipline can lead to freedom. Structure can be flexible in design. And your life can become more productive, contributing, and enjoyable when you have a foundation of awareness and intentionality built into it.

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Doing More With Less

February 17, 2025

Many people are experiencing an internal conflict. On one hand, they’re busier than ever and don’t have any capacity for more. Yet on the other hand, expectations are higher than ever and they need to do more things, be in more places, and make it all work. It’s an unwinnable equation and needless to say people are finding it challenging to strike an appropriate balance. 

The default response is that people realize they need to do more with less. They need to become more efficient, get more done in less time, and pack even more into an already full schedule. Unfortunately this puts them into a reactive, defensive position as they try to manage it all and figure out how to get it done in a way that's “good enough”.

But rather than solving the problem from the perspective of being limited on resources, what if you choose to be resourceful. Rather than believing that you ‘need to do more with less’, you believe that you ‘can do more with less’. A simple reframe charges you with encouragement, creative thinking, agency, and on positions you to be on offense as you seek to solve the problem. It ignites personal innovation and empowers you to come up with something that’s even better than required.

For example, let’s say that you have a work project that has a seemingly impossible deadline. ‘Needing to do more in less time’ might get you cutting corners and doing a good enough job to get by without consequence. But embracing that you ‘can do more with less’ has you repurposing old frameworks and ideas that expand on the original intention. 

Tony Robbins is known for saying “It's not the lack of resources, it's your lack of resourcefulness that stops you.” Embracing the mindset that ‘you can do more with less’, and that there’s hope, possibility, and opportunity on the horizon, is how you create beyond the requirements of your role and excel in ways others won’t.

And at the end of the day, if you absolutely need to get something done, you’re going to find a way to get it done. What I’m encouraging you to do is look more positively on the problem so that you aren’t constrained to the limitations and scarcity of needing to do it, and tap into the abundance of what’s possible.

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Weekend Recap 2/10 - 2/14

February 15, 2025
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The 3 Steps To Implementation

February 14, 2025

The most important thing that any thought leader will tell you is that, if you want your life to change, you need to do something different with what you know.

It’s not enough to just learn it… If education doesn’t create any tangible changes in action or behavior then it doesn’t do anything for you. Especially in personal development circles, that’s why so many people talk about the importance of implementation - because if you don’t then your efforts to actually change your life won’t amount to anything.

The definition of ‘implementation’ is “the process of putting a plan or decision into effect, to execute”. What that involves is using knowledge to do something in a different way that is more likely to generate the result that you want.

As I see it, there are 3 steps to implementation: Awareness, Action Plan, and Accountability.

Everything, including implementation, starts with awareness. You can’t consciously change something you’re not aware of, and you can’t know what you want to improve upon until you’re aware of what you want. This includes awareness of good ideas to try, awareness for the state of how things currently are, and awareness for the state of how you want things to be.

From there you can develop an action plan. This is a clearly outlined procedure for how you intend to take action, with all of the people, resources, timing, and details taken into consideration. You’re more likely to follow through on what you plan to do when you have an outlined system of execution. Most ideas that people hope to take action on don’t have an action plan behind them, and therefore they often don't transfer effectively into positive change.

Which leads us to the final component: Accountability. Having an action plan isn’t enough. Countless times people have said they were going to do something and then they lacked the discipline to actually do it. That’s what accountability helps with - it makes you honestly answer to what actually happened, if you followed through or not, and adds a consequence to skipping.

Poetically, accountability acts as a mirror so you can clearly see how you did. In other words, it creates awareness, and with that awareness you can adjust your action plan and try again.

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“I feel like I’m falling behind.”

February 13, 2025

Something that is becoming increasingly more common in today’s world is feeling like you’re falling behind. Take one look at social media and it seems like everyone else is succeeding - building awesome careers and businesses, taking amazing trips, getting into great shape - and it makes you wonder what you’re doing wrong. 

Especially talented, hard-working, smart people who are doing all the right things… They can’t figure out why they’re struggling so much to get the result. They don’t understand why other people make it look so easy but they need to fight for every inch of progress.

To this I want to present two perspective shifts. The first relates to the reality of other people’s successes. The people you admire likely have similar insecurities. They question their level of achievement just the same. What this suggests is that our tendency to feel bad for ourselves in comparison to others is a human condition, and that real shifts in perception come from changes internally rather than from validation externally.

Tom Bilyeu from Impact Theory puts it beautifully: “People believe that when they become the person that they look at with admiration, they will feel that same admiration for themselves.” And unfortunately, that’s just not true.

The second perspective shift is to represent the feelings more accurately. The comparison to others only brings to surface what it means about yourself. It’s the insufficiency prompted by comparing yourself to others that drives the belief that is really at play here: “I thought I would be further along by now.” and “I feel like I’m falling behind.” 

The business person’s jealousy of someone else’s success is a reflection that their business isn’t where they want it to be. Seeing someone else in a loving romantic relationship makes you anxious that you’re running out of time to meet your soulmate. We’re each running our own race, and the genuine fear is that we’re falling behind the pace set by where we think we should be.

But there are a few beautiful parts about it. First is, you’re exactly where you need to be. So find some faith and solace in that. But also, it’s within your power to pick up the pace. If you feel like you’re falling behind, there are ways to speed up! Ask people for help, study your conditions for success, and push yourself beyond your comfort zone. You’ll be shocked to see how fast you start to make up ground.

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Either You Win Or You Learn

February 12, 2025

Brian Johnson with Heroic has a saying that, if you take it to heart, will radically accelerate your growth and progress: “Either you win or you learn, and learning is winning, so either you win or you win.” 

And what’s most surprising is that given how transformational this idea is, most people are unwilling to do it.

When you win, it’s cause for celebration and you feel really good about yourself. But when you don’t, and you fall short of the expectations you have for yourself, it hurts. Motivated to preserve your own self-image, it’s easy to ignore, avoid, and deflect the situation and move on. It’s easier to feel bad for yourself than it is to be honest with yourself and own up to the fact that you didn’t meet expectations.

But failure is the most fertile, valuable, information rich feedback we could ever get. It tells us clearly what didn’t work about our attempt so that we can fine-tune our approach. It’s only by reflecting on the mistake or shortcoming that you can see the lesson within it, and with that lesson become more prepared to succeed the next time.

That itself is a win. If you aren’t going to get the result you want the first time, then logically the next best thing is to get the feedback you need that will maximize the likelihood you’ll get the result the next time. 

I used to be horrible at receiving feedback. I would take it very critically and reflex to defend myself rather than hear the guidance others had to offer me. When it came to my own evaluation of my performance, I allowed myself to feel entitled that I should have gotten what I wanted, and that what happened was unfair. And unsurprisingly it only led to more disappointment and more deflection.

That is until I started using my Self Improvement Scorecard for feedback. Basically every evening I fill out my Scorecard to honestly report on how I did throughout the day. For the areas where I didn’t reach my standards or goals for the day, I reflect on why. And time after time, analyzing my performance in my Self Improvement Scorecard, I grew my growth mindset and receiving feedback became more natural to me. So much so that now I genuinely embrace failure as feedback, and take bigger and bolder action in ways I only imagined!

If you want to accelerate your improvement, check out my Self Improvement Scorecard and  learn how to install it for yourself. And it's by getting that feedback consistently for yourself, you’ll realize there are only two options - Either you win or you learn!

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How To Make A Schedule That Works Even When Life Is Crazy

February 11, 2025
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One of the most important things that every high-achiever has in common is they are incredibly intentional with how they spend their time. The world is busier, crazier, and more unpredictable than ever - demanding more of you as you try to do it all. Those who can overcome distraction and stay hyper-focused on what matters most to them are the ones who get what they want.

And do you know how they manage to do that? They make a high-quality schedule for the day.

In “The One Thing”, author Gary Keller calls a daily schedule “productivity’s power tool”. There is nothing that will keep you on track more than knowing what ‘on track’ is. Another renowned author, Nir Eyal, calls this ‘traction’. He says that “in order to know what distraction is we need to know what we’re being distracted from.” Your schedule tells you exactly that.

Yet most people don’t know how to create a schedule, or their life is so chaotic that they can never get a schedule to work for them. To that, let me share two perspectives:

1)Your day isn’t supposed to go perfectly according to schedule. It’s your intention for the day that represents what you hope to do given the information you have. As the day unfolds and new priorities, urgencies, and information becomes available, you may choose to go off schedule. And that’s perfectly acceptable because your schedule is simply meant to be a reference point to remind you of what you think ‘on track’ looks like

2) Your schedule doesn’t need to be entirely full. For those who have more unpredictable days, you can accommodate that uncertainty in your plan. Leaving “unplanned” times for the things that you know will pop up helps you quantify what you can practically get done. So instead of always having a schedule that is impossible to fulfill, you can create one that’s designed to be flexible and therefore, more doable in actuality. 

Ultimately, considering both of these helps you to accomplish a few things. You strike a better balance because you can clearly differentiate between personal responsibilities, work commitments, and 'me' time. You eliminate stress because you don’t add too much to your own plate. And you get more done in less time because you have a clear plan of attack for the day.

If your life is too unpredictable to make a schedule for the day, that’s exactly why you need the structure of a schedule. And if you need any help knowing where to start in creating a schedule, check out this scheduling micro-training where I walk you through it!

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