"You do you."

There’s so much going on in the world right now, too much to keep up with to be honest, and it is exhausting. It’s Coronavirus, it’s racial inequality and Black Lives Matter, it’s news about UFOs, and publicly suppressed information. In the face of it all we need to figure out what we want to do about it, and how we relate to others about it. This is so difficult because there are so many different opinions and arguments. So, let’s simplify it to something basic. “You do you”.

This is an expression I use when someone is making a decision that I don’t want to play a part in. If it’s something I disagree with, something I don’t have an interest in, or something I don’t understand, at some point you just gotta let someone else be their own person and make their own decisions. You do you.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t engage in important debates and share your perspective, you absolutely should, but when your points continue to fall short and you can’t seem to get through to someone, you need to respect their own understanding and not continue the issue any further.

Because that’s mutual. That’s what you would want from someone else who was questioning your beliefs. The expectation is “alright, you can do you, but I’ll do me”. This means that you’re entrusted to make your own decisions and doing the best with what you have to work with on hand.

Now again, this can be very difficult. When it comes to people making decisions that put others in harm’s way, it’s not ethical to just let it go. It’s complicated, there’s no one size fits all solution to this,. I guess the point I’m trying to make is that we should be more tolerant of each other and look to understand first before criticizing. But what do I know? You do you.