You Are Responsible For Your Life

I want to present a mindset shift, and if you embrace it you’ll feel liberated and empowered to make positive change. It doesn’t always make logical sense, but there’s an underlying choice in it that is powerful when harnessed. 

You are more responsible for your life than you think.

The common factor built into all of the circumstances you encounter, environments you step into, and opportunities you’re exposed to… is you. Even if it doesn’t feel like you had any part in the happenings around you, the fact you’re a part of it means that you are in many ways responsible for it.

This is a good thing, because when things are in your control you can do about something it. Of course, there are many things in your life that are out of your control, but knowing that there are elements of those things that you do control, that you are responsible for, allows you to mold the things around you in a certain way.

For example, maybe at work you don’t feel respected. Your boss subtly undermines you and your colleagues don’t take you seriously. Their behavior is out of your control, but what is in your control is the energy you put off that influences the way they choose to behave. In understanding that, you realize that you actually are more responsible for the way others treat you than you think. 

Or let’s say you were relying on a partner or roommate to do a chore, say take out the trash, and they don’t. Are there other things you could have done to remind them to do the chore? Absolutely! You could have further manipulated the outcome because indirectly the outcome did rely on your own behavior, not just there’s.

So when things happen in life, as they always do, challenge yourself to be responsible for why that happened. Get uncomfortable, consider alternatives, and see your responsibility in the issue. You just might be able to fix things you thought were “out of your control” faster than you expected.