Silence in Conversations

Here’s a trick that will help with your communication skills.  So often, in conversation, do we feel like we need to fill a silence with noise to relieve the tension. In reality, it is better idea to embrace the silence, as it is a stronger statement and testament to your comfortability in the conversation.

You’ve heard the phrase “pause for effect” before I’m sure, especially in a public speaking setting, but the same concept can and should be used on a daily basis.  A master of this is perhaps the most influential speaker in history, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."

A pause in conversation does a few interesting things. For starters, it makes both people think deeply what was just said, and even draw some of their own conclusions in only seconds.  Additionally, it shows that you are comfortable being vulnerable, which comes off as a clear sign of confidence.  And last, it allows the speaker more time to think, which in turn makes them more eloquent and impactful with their words.  Next time you’re in a conversation, embrace the silent moments, and feel the empowerment.