Keeping Your Composure

Life can be challenging and test us in various ways. Sometimes things just aren’t clicking like you’d like them to, or the small things become bigger headaches than they need to be. These annoying, inconveniencing moments can start to add up and feel overwhelming. This happens because you start running low on will power and emotional control. More simply put - these things can start to wear you down. Unfortunately, after carrying this weight for a long time you are most prone to outbursts.

I don't think anyone would choose to have big emotional releases, responding in ways that are outside of their values. Yet it happens to the best of us, so it’s important to learn how to manage emotions and keep our composure.

First, you need to think about how to limit impulsivity. We do and say things we don’t mean because we don’t give ourselves the time we need to process things, and determine that we don’t want to respond in certain ways. What happens is your brain takes a psychological short cut and operates unconsciously and instinctually, but we can combat this by giving ourselves a pause. When you’re in the heat of an emotion take a deep breath. Give yourself the time to think and let the conclusions you draw determine your response rather than succumb to an impulsive outburst. In that way you can be more accountable and led by the outcome you want rather than the emotional release.

Keeping your composure is an important skill to develop because it is inevitable we will be tested, and our ability to manage our emotions directly correlates with the quality of our performance. You can be better at managing tight deadlines at work, growing stronger relationships, and being someone others turn to.

What are some of the inconveniences life throws at you that you’d like to be able to manage better?

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