I was reflecting on a few areas of my growth and came upon a realization I’d never had before. Today’s world caters to the extreme ends of the spectrum and it shapes our perspective. It’s the strong political views of people in opposing parties... It’s the 5am club crazy morning routines... The people who read 50 books in a year.

The truth of it is the far majority of people don’t operate at the extremes, but that’s where the focus is, and it creates a biased reference point that leads to us having unrealistic expectations for ourselves.

Back to my realization - I’ve found myself getting self-conscious about my level of achievement because of this. But then I made a discovery. I realized that growth is a progression, and that the people at the far ends of it are just further along on their growth journey in that area.

This surfaced for me in a real life example. I was at the grocery store checking out at the cashier. As I was bagging up my food, I heard the person behind me ask for a job. The employee said that they are always hiring but she didn’t know what they were hiring for. The person behind me thanked her for the information and he walked away.

Something I’m trying to get better at in my life is finding more ways to be of service to others. I heard the conversation and I have enough experience to know that if you want a job, you need to probe a little harder than turn away at the first obstacle. I had this thought process, wanting to encourage him to try harder and navigate to someone who can give him a better answer, but then I felt myself get nervous and began to dismiss it.

But fortunately, I remembered my intention, mustered up the courage to speak to him, and provided some insight to support a stranger on their job-finding process.

I felt accomplished and proud of myself for showing up for the moment, but when I got in the car to drive home I started comparing my actions to the greater acts of kindness other people did in similar situations. People who don't just give advice but buy that individual clothes, help them write and print a resume, coach them up on how to get a job, and support them at a higher level. 

That’s not what I did... But that’s the point. Progression is a spectrum. I’m not ready to serve at that level yet so I can’t expect myself to be there. I didn’t even have the awareness in the moment to consider it. 

Is that the type of person I want to be? Absolutely. But that’s not where I was at on the spectrum on this day, and I’ll continue growing toward it.

So the insight here is - Just because you’re not operating at the ultimate level you want to does not mean you haven’t made progress. Do not discredit your growth! Everything is a progression where we improve over time, and the longer we’re in it, the more we improve!

I wanted to share this quote with you today because hopefully it will give you the encouragement you need to start living at your next level.

“The committed person, win or lose, is the one who finds the real excitement in living.”

This is a classic example of how the beauty of our human experience is found in the process and not the outcome. We hear it all the time, it’s about the journey and not the destination. That’s not just a feel-good saying - the most successful people in the world have said over and over again that their happiness is not found in things or accolades. It’s in the pursuit of all of it that they feel most alive.

But what does it mean to be a committed person? As Teddy Roosevelt says, “it’s the person in the arena”. It’s putting yourself out there in ways that challenge you and evolve you. When you’re committed it means that you’re in it, finding your way and doing what you can to do better.

It’s so easy to be content with how things are. Where things aren’t that bad, but they aren’t that good either. It’s that space where it’s all ‘good enough’ and you don’t feel really motivated to do anything about it. This is where too many people spend their lives and miss out on all of the richness, excitement, and enthusiasm life has to offer.

Being the committed person means doing things differently to create new results and experiences. It’s an intentional effort to bring consciousness to how you’re existing and not just exist. To create that consciousness you need to find your edge a little bit, to test your boundary, to expose yourself to ways that you can fail or put yourself in a position to make a mistake.

Why put yourself in that kind of situation? Because that’s where you find the real excitement in living. Win or lose, that’s where you feel most alive

And do you know what that requires? Being bold. Taking risks every once in a while, not letting fear or scarcity hold you back, being courageous and optimistic as you take action to shape your future.

So what can you do today to be this person? What have you been putting off, neglecting, ignoring, or fearful of that will unlock a world of opportunity should you work through it? If you don’t have an answer to that, I’m hosting a free live workshop today, August 31st at 5pm PT called Visioneering Dreams To Reality where you’ll get to clearly define what you want and lock in on what you need to do to achieve it.

If you’ve ever experienced success in your life maybe you’ve noticed something. The world opens up to you as you’re flooded with new ideas, new possibilities, and new opportunities. This is very exciting and validating in the short-term, but it’s also the shadow of failure.

Ben Newman, peak performance coach says that your response to success is actually your indicator for greatness. He talks about this at length in his book, “The Standard: Winning Everyday At Your Highest Level” and says that when most people taste success they become less accountable to the actions that produced it, and start to drift off. 

That’s why it’s so hard for teams to repeat championships. The natural response is to let off.

To put it another way, Greg McKeown in Essentialism talks about the success paradox where:

1) When we really have clarity of purpose, it leads to success.

2) When we have success, it leads to more options and opportunities.

3) When we have increased options and opportunities, it leads to diffused efforts.

4) Diffused efforts undermine the very clarity that led to our success in the first place.

What this does is it causes drift. Drift is when your trajectory slowly starts to change and leads you to getting further away from your goals. Whether it's success or life transitions or new chapters or whatever it might be that's causing drift, it all means that you’re slowly losing sight of what’s most important to you.

The best way to prevent drift is to have an extremely clear vision on where you’re headed. So that no matter the success or failures, blessings and curses, wins and losses - You don’t lose sight of what it’s all about. As deviations present themselves on your path, having a clear picture of what you want helps you to make more aligned decisions and ultimately, accelerate you toward your goals.

Think of it like Bumper Bowling. When you start to get off path, your vision acts like bumpers helping you make forward progress. But if you don’t have those bumpers in place, you’re likely to end up somewhere else and only realize it well after it’s already happened.

This is what a vision will do for you: It’ll help you define the life-balance you want to have. It gives you a decision making framework that you can run everything through before making a commitment. It helps you enforce the healthy and social lifestyle you want to live even when there’s a lot of money or status on the table. It holds you accountable to living within your core values so that you have a life that makes you feel deeply proud and filled with joy.

If you don’t have a clear life vision, or you haven’t revisited it in a while, tomorrow I’m hosting a workshop where we’ll create your 10 year vision that will serve as your guiding star, and makes it infinitely more likely that you’ll end up where you want to be in life. It won’t happen on its own, it’s up to you to take action, and showing up to this workshop is your way of getting on the path to making it happen!

That’s really it isn’t it? Either you can put your energy into building your dream life, or you can see what happens. The choice is yours!

Click here to register for tomorrow's live workshop: Visioneering Dreams To Reality

I’m not going to sugar coat this one. Sometimes life can be hard. Situations can be stressful and create serious anxiety for you. Things often don’t go according to plan which is disappointing and frustrating. Our human experience is an emotional one and the reality is, we often have negative emotions that come as a result of the conditions around us.

That’s where I want to ask you a really important question: In the face of life’s stressors and strains, what do you usually do in response?

Many people feel a need to escape from their life. It could be consuming alcohol or substances to make you feel differently and numb the pain. It could be engrossing yourself in a mindless TV show that turns your world off for a moment. It could be scrolling on social media looking for quick hits of positive emotions to distract you from what’s happening around you.

Not to generalize or speak poorly about any of those things... There’s a time and place for everything... The overarching motivation to engage in those things is the more important point. Are you unhappy enough from your day to day that you feel a need to escape from life?

I hope not, but if you do, I want you to know that I understand. It’s not always easy. But I also want you to know that it doesn’t need to be that way, that there’s a path out when you commit to it.

The path can be a full 180 in life where you go from smoking cigarettes, or binge eating every day, to running marathons. It could also be going from having a nagging, draining boss to becoming their own. Many people have done it, which means that you certainly can do it too.

But no matter how big or small, the people who’ve identified that they want a change and took action to make it their current reality all followed the same set of steps.

First was awareness. They realized that they’d been tolerating in their life that they don't like, want or need.

Second was vision. They figured out how they wanted things to be instead.

And third was action. They changed the inputs and design of their life to generate new, different, and improved outputs.

As I see it, we’re in this 3-step process right now. Listening to this episode has given you awareness. You’re aware of the gap, and if it created a tension, hopefully you’re motivated to do something about it.

And that’s where I want to support you with the next two steps. Vision and action. If you don’t see exactly what you want from life right now, how can you possibly expect to get it?

Life change requires a clear vision, and many people are stuck in the day to day that they've lost sight of the big picture. That’s why I am inviting you to join me in a free workshop I’m hosting called “Visioneering Dreams To Reality” where you get clarity on the lifestyle, health, career, family life, and purpose you live in your wildest dreams, and then commit to tangible, immediate action steps you can take to get on the path toward achieving it.

Or not. The choice is yours!

What if I told you we’re only operating at 40% of our fullest potential? There have been years of ideas suggesting that we only use a fraction of our brain... And who knows if that’s true… But what about our human potential? That’s a different conversation.

In our brain there’s something called “The Governor”. David Goggins talks about this a lot in his book “Can’t Hurt Me”, and he’s the one to do it because there’s no one in the world who is better at defeating their Governor than he is. 

Essentially, The Governor is that part of our brain that is the off-switch. It tells us to slow down, take a step back, and not push. It’s the voice of reason trying to keep us from straining ourselves. When you hit the wall and you feel like you need to stop, that’s the Governor.

It serves as a safety switch that prevents you from pushing yourself to life-threatening levels. It runs your life so that you don’t experience pain and suffering. But guess what, according to Goggins this Governor kicks in at around 40%. This means that your body and mind isn’t even halfway to its fullest capacity when it usually stops.

It’s like a car engine. Many cars are capable of going well over 100 miles an hour, but the car has been programmed to cap out at 95. That’s the Governor.

And that’s why strenuous physical exercise is so good for you. When you’re exhausted and what feels like your “limit”, you get to face up with your Governor. It’s screaming at you, telling you to stop, that it’s okay to quit, that it’s the right decision. But beyond that 40% is a whole lot of untapped potential that you get to access. And you do as you get more comfortable battling your Governor and dictating how you feel rather than letting your feelings dictate you.

This is an intense concept so let’s make it more concrete. You know those daily fears, doubts, insecurities, and moments when you hesitate from taking action? That’s your Governor too. And the more that you can take action through it, to override your minds attempts to get you to stop or quit, the more you open up that next level.

Do it consistently, again and again, until it becomes more comfortable and it takes bolder and bolder to set the governor off. You’ll find that you’re taking action in ways that used to terrify you before, but now you’re not thinking twice.

In my mind, if you want to embrace this process and make things happen in your life, you need two things:

1) A clear vision for what you want that fuels you;

2) A tangible next step to get there.

If you feel like this is an area for improvement, I’m putting on a 45 minute workshop to paint your life vision and distill it down into tangible next steps so that you can be accountable to making it a reality.

There’s a topic that has come up a few times for me in the last week and I’ve taken it as a sign that it’s something I should really pay attention to. The first mention of it came in a call with my coach - As we were talking about a challenge in my life he encouraged me to “Stop being inside the problem and start being outside the problem.”

Also, right now I’m re-reading the book “Essentialism” by Greg McKeown and he has a whole section dedicated to intentional exploration, because after doing that, you have more information to work with to make your fewer commitments the right ones.

In the busyness of our lives, how often do we get to take a step back and think. To think about the goals we’ve committed to, the direction we’re headed, and even the ways we’re currently doing things. The essentialist mindset offers one echoing encouragement, how can you do “less but better”?

The answer is to think more and open the door to the ideas and opportunities that were being overlooked. 

Now does that mean that you need to change everything, all at once, all the time? Of course not. There’s a fine line between being too spontaneous and putting thought into your current circumstances. But the awareness that thinking brings you, shining light on where things might be deficient, suboptimal, or incomplete, could give you insight into what needs to change first.

Here are a few examples of how thinking might help you step outside of the problem:

Do you know exactly what you want in your career or are you just frustrated that you’re not there yet?

Do you know what a better relationship with your partner actually looks like or are you just griping that it’s not good enough?

Do you know what else might be contributing to you having a hard time losing weight, even though the nutrition plan you’re on is supposed to work?

Getting clear on some of these finer details, and making decisions on how you want to proceed differently, could make all the difference. And that’s what some carved out, dedicated “thinking time” could help you to do.

If you feel like it’s been a while since you’ve really thought about what you want in life, doesn’t it make sense why you aren’t living it? If you want to bridge that gap and adjust the trajectory of your life so that it’s pointed in a more fulfilling, inspiring, and energizing direction, I’m putting on a 45 minute workshop called Visioneering Dreams To Reality. 

If you want to allocate some time to think about what’s important, and find ways to make your life easier and better all at once, register for the free workshop right now and I’ll run you through a process that will really open your mind and get you excited again about what’s possible!

There’s one day in our lives when everything starts to click. It’s when we finally start to get consistent with the habits and routines that are best for us. It’s the day that our attitude permanently shifts. It’s the day that we stop being so busy and start having more balance. It’s the day that we start living by our own design.

Do you know what day that is? 

Tomorrow.

Our best intentions, healthy choices, new beginnings - They always seem to have a start date of tomorrow. But the problem with tomorrow is it’s the day that never comes. Tomorrow will always be one day away, and there’s nothing you can do about it. 

Except this…

Do you know what today is? “Today is yesterday’s tomorrow”, and that means something wonderful for us.

All of those things that we want, that are important to us, and that we’ve been putting off for tomorrow… Their time has come. It means we don’t need to wait to live the life that we want to. We officially have permission to do it today.

This is represented in the Day One Mindset. Stop putting your dreams off for one day, you can begin pursuing them right now and make today Day One.

But in order to do this, it requires two things. First, it requires that you know what you want. Sometimes we’re so deep into how things are right now that we have a hard time seeing how things could be. We need to be aware of what different and better even looks like if we want to go create it.

Then the second requirement is, you need to know what to do something right now that puts you on the path toward achieving it. Once you put some real action behind something you want, achieving it is no longer a possibility, it becomes a probability. This means that there becomes a real, mathematical chance that it could happen, whereas before it was just a fantasy.

Every single day another tomorrow comes and goes because “today is yesterday’s tomorrow”. (Credit to Jim Rohn for the quote). And if you’re tired of waiting for things to change and realizing that’s why the never do, let me give you a real thing you can do today to make your dream life not so much of a fantasy, but a potential reality that you’re actively pursuing.

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In one week from today, Thursday August 31st, I’m leading a free workshop called “Visioneering Dreams To Reality” where in just 45 minutes you will have a clear vision for the life you want to live and immediate next steps to start magnetizing it into your reality. Your first step to materializing your dream life is to register for the Workshop right now. Click here to register for it, for free!

I’ve talked to hundreds of people about their self-improvement journeys, been in mine for a decade, been teaching about it for over half of that time, and I hear the same things come up again and again. 

In our personal development we all want similar things: To have better habits. To get more consistent with our routines. To be more productive, structured, and organized. To eliminate distractions and wasted time. To work through negative mindsets and conquer self-sabotage. To make healthier choices. To be more self-confident. To be the best version of ourselves that we possibly can be for the people and causes that depend on us. 

There are more but maybe you can relate with a few of those.

And in pursuit of that better, improved version of ourselves, I’ve found that many people are getting carried away being active in their self-growth without building the foundation they need to actually transform their health, time management, and relationships.

This is the #1 mistake keeping so many people stuck and it’s costing them energy, wasting their time, and causing them to doubt if they have what it takes to live the life of their dreams and reach their goals.

What does this look like?

It’s the compulsion to always want to be doing something productive.

It’s the constant itch to find that one insight or perspective that you think will activate that next level of growth.

It’s committing and recommitting over and over again to goals and intentions in a draining pattern of fits and starts.

And while all of this effort you’re putting into being a better version of yourself is great for your ego and feeling good about yourself, it doesn’t do much to actually drive results in your life.

It all comes down to the one truism and oversight that people have in their self-development, and once it’s corrected, it unlocks all of that latent potential that they know has been incubating for so long…

You can’t improve what you do not measure.

In order to improve anything about your life, you need to make sure that you actually know what’s working. You need daily feedback to understand how you’re actually doing. And you need a way to know when your performance is lacking so that you can be aware of the excuses, exceptions, conditions, or circumstances that caused it.

It’s with this understanding that all of the habits, routines, mindsets, efficiencies, systems, and optimizations you desire can be built on top of! That’s why I call the measurement system of daily behavior tracking your Keystone Habit. And I’ve got a whole philosophy built around it that I call “Upgrading Your Self-Improvement Operating System”.

If you want to install your new daily performance tracking system that serves as the foundation for improvement in every area of your life, join the 21 Day Super Habits Challenge and watch your health choices, daily productivity, and professional progress soar!

When you’re feeling stuck in not knowing how to do something, or how to get started, all you have to do is make a commitment. It’s incredible what happens when you step forward and commit to something, and how the path reveals itself once you’re on it.

But before getting into how that works, let’s explore why it’s so hard to get started with anything…

Our human nature is to do less and conserve energy. It’s wired into our evolutionary psychology. On top of that, the main function of our brain is to keep us safe.

When we’re considering a path forward and we don’t know exactly what it looks like or how to do it, it triggers a state of uncertainty in the mind. The mind interprets uncertainty as a threat to our safety because ‘different’ could be dangerous. So our brain actively makes it hard to take action as a way of keeping us safe, leveraging things like limiting beliefs and perfectionism to keep us where we’re at. This is a textbook explanation of self-sabotage.

This is when our brain finds all the reasons why we shouldn’t rather than why we should, which delays our decision making and postpones us from getting started. And it’s a false, manufactured sense of fear that often doesn’t serve you.

But when you make a commitment, despite the ways your brain is trying to tell you not to, something really interesting happens. No longer is your brain spending energy trying to figure out ‘if’ you’re going to do it, which dominates your mental bandwidth. Instead you get to start putting all of your thought into ‘how’ you’re going to do it, and with that extra attention all of the ideas and insights you need to make it happen start coming through.

So if you’re feeling stuck in any capacity, make a commitment because it will shift you into motion.

Want to start exercising more often? Tell someone that you’re going to start going for a walk every day and guess what happens, you figure out how to prioritize it in your day instead of saying that you “just don't’ have enough time”. 

Been wanting to start a new hobby for a while but haven’t gotten around to it? Book one lesson, take one class, or schedule time with a friend to do it once.

Making a commitment completely changes the dynamic in your life. Instead of trying to fit it into your schedule, you start to build around it. And with a new design you start to play a new game.