Our Relationship Sunday Sync

Wanted to share something that my wife and I do for our relationship to stay on the same page. We call it our Sunday Sync. Basically, every Sunday we have time on the calendar to connect and plan for the week ahead. 

We start it off with a line of gratitude for the other person. This helps us approach the conversation through a lens of being appreciative of each other and that above all else, we’re on the same team. It sets the positive tone we want to carry into the conversation.

From there we check in with how the other person is doing overall. We share our stress levels so that we have a sense for each other’s mental health and emotional state. When one of us is more stressed or down, it’s a good flag for the other person to be mindful of that and make an extra effort to support them. It’s also a good practice for us personally to check in on how we’re doing.

After that we talk about things that are on our mind. Most things are just general questions, clarifications, and updates, but also it’s a space to talk about any disagreements, miscommunications, or things that made us upset. What’s really special about this setting is that when these topics are brought up, neither of us are caught off guard or defensive about it. And what this does is it creates a really constructive environment for us to be honest with each other and find resolutions and action plans that we both agree on. 

And then finally, after that  we coordinate schedules and align on our plans for the week. We’ve found this has been really helpful to make sure logistically things go smoothly and that we understand each other’s availability. We plan our date night, and know the other has plans so that we can make plans ourselves if we want to.

Overall, these Sunday syncs have been really helpful for us as we build a strong relationship, and if any of it stood out to you, I encourage you to give it a try with your partner!