"Happiness 'when' starts with happiness now."
I’d say a lot of people in this world, myself included, desire more happiness in their life. They want to be more enthusiastic, to have a more positive outlook on life, and to have more fun in what they do. But being happy is so much easier said than done. We have busy schedules, responsibilities, unfortunate happenings, and unpredicted setbacks that steer us off of a happy course.
That’s why so many people choose to postpone their happiness for another day. They figure, I just need to get through this and then I’ll be happy, almost giving themselves permission to suck it up and accept that they’re not as happy as they want to be.
I call this being “happy when”. I’ll be happy when I get a raise and that promotion. I’ll be happy when I settle into a romantic relationship. I’ll be happy when I get a break and go on that trip.
But that’s just simply not the case, and I didn’t understand this for myself until I heard Tom Bilyeu’s mindset on it, but substituting the idea of feeling successful for being happy.
Bilyeu says “Success doesn’t change your insecurities. Most people look at somebody who’s successful with this admiration and they think that when I’m successful I’ll look at myself with the same admiration. All you have is this moment, success is not something in the future where you cross the finish line and feel forever the way you’ve wanted to feel. Success will feel exactly like this moment.”
That’s happiness too.
If you’re not finding ways to be happy right now with what you have, you’re not going to feel all that different when your circumstances change. What this means is that we treat happiness as if it’s determined externally when in reality it is completely an inner game.
So instead of being “happy when”, what can you do to start being “happy now”? How can you set an intention, adjust your attitude, or otherwise change your mindset?
Another personal development luminary, Tony Robbins, says “happiness is progress”. If we have something that we’re improving at, it gives us something to be excited about, something to look forward to, and something to find purpose in. And as someone who listens to personal development podcasts I’m sure you get that.
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